I have to say that I have always liked to watch the man during events where the woman is the "main attraction". At weddings I like to watch the groom as the bride walks down the aisle - Everyone turns to look at the beautiful bride, but I keep my eyes on the groom - it's a, dare I say, even more beautiful sight to me. I have always liked to watch husbands as their wives are pregnant and talking about it to everyone, since everyone only asks the woman about it.
For some reason people think that it's all about the woman...while I am the one carrying the child, Jared is carrying our family. Just because his body isn't changing and growing a human, his world is changing too...a lot. And I would think the hardest part is that he can't relate to how I am feeling, or anything. To him I look the same...nothing REALLY is changing but I have become useless. I have spent a good part of the last 2 months laying on our couch. Often I ask Jared to get me some food, or a drink, or to move the laundry, and he happily does every time. Running to the store at a moments notice to get whatever I feel like eating. Making me yummy home cooked meals only to have me say "that looks/smells disgusting I can't eat that" to his efforts. I can't clean dishes because it makes me feel sick, I really have been useless. Jared has cleaned our house inside and out, done the grocery shopping, cooking (which i never did anyway), getting Duke his exercise, and just all the other little things. I really appreciate him and all the hubby's out there whose lives are changing, who are asked to suddenly do so much more and never complain. Add that on to working all day - while I am home sleeping - I would think he could get a little annoyed with me, but he doesn't. At least not to my face.
I am eternally grateful for Jared and how loving he is and how hard he works for our family. I am truly a lucky girl. I hope that people appreciate what he and all future dad's are going through and the things he is dealing with as well. It's not all about me, thank goodness. We are a team, and a pretty good one at that. Right now Jared is carrying our team! Hopefully I will be back in action soon and can help with some of the work he has taken upon himself.
i felt the SAME way about Ryan. especially when i was a puke-fest in the beginning, and then SUPER MEGA HUGE at the end and just wanted to sit. and even after S was born when i felt like all i did was nurse and sit around healing. our men are amazing for dealing so well with the change. but keep in mind...you're doing A LOT, too. your body is creating a human!! it may seem like nothing except body changes, but remember what's going on in there...it blows my mind.
ReplyDeletebut yes...great job, jared! keep up the good work. :)