Know what you can control and what you can't and let go of the things you can't.
There are so many things in life that people get upset about or anxious or worry about that they have no control over. Do what you can, but beyond that you can't control it so stop trying. Luckily I know that God is ultimately in control and so I just have faith that he will use things in my life in some positive way. I might not see it right away, but that's ok I just need to keep trusting, having faith and going for it. Worrying to me is pointless it does nothing but ruin the moment at hand. As long as you are prepared for whatever it is in any way you can then that's all you can do.
I am a very organized person, but I am also a go-with-the-flow person and laid-back. If I know things need to get done and I can do them, then it drives me crazy to sit back and wait for someone to do them, or not just get it done. If, however, there is something going on that I can't control then I am perfectly happy to sit back and go with the flow.
It bothers me so much when people complain and have negative attitudes. One of my "favorites" is at restaurants - people get so upset with servers and if the food isn't brought out when they think it should be or something is not cooked right, or they are out of something. - Who cares, is this seriously something you want to waste your time and energy on. I am sure the people at the restaurant weren't waiting for you to come in so they could ruin your day. You can control how you react to the situation, and if it's really bothering you then don't go out to eat. You don't need to ruin someone else's day. And most importantly you complaining or being rude to that person isn't going to change the situation - you are just bringing down another human being, and why would you do that...seriously.
Negative people really bother me, they bring me down and I think it's usually because they are insecure, need to prove something to the world, and don't realize what they can control and what they can't.
Sometimes I lose sight of controlling what I can control and need to relax ... this is when Jim Brickman comes into play, and other music. Music is a big part of my life and I have playlists for all differnt moods and situations. One of my playlists helps me to remember and realize the important things in life and let go of the rest. I am so thankful to have learned this lesson - it wasn't easy it took getting a lot of punches in the face, but my life and stress has gotten 1000 times better after truly implementing and believing this.
(this Zac Brown Band song isn't really even on my playlist that I just spoke of, but I like the chorus and it goes with what I am saying)
"Keep your heart above your head and your eyes wide open, so this world can't find a way to leave you cold. And know your not the only ship out on the ocean, so save your strength for things that you can change, forgive the ones you can't, you gotta let 'em go."
- Zac Brown Band - Let It Go
I truly believe that you can choose to be happy and enjoy something everyday. It is a choice - maybe you are in a bad spot or have to go do something you hate, prepare a special treat for yourself or a reward for later that day or week, something to look forward to. Or bring something with you that will make you smile, wear a new pair of socks that make you happy - Control what you can. Life is to short to let other people control your happiness, don't be a victim.
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