Here we go!

So for those of you who don't know...which if you are reading this blog then you probably do Jared and I have been trying to get pregnant for a little over a year now... I am just going to post the email here that we sent out to family and friends:

Hello Friends –

Well we just wanted to give you a little life update from Hudsonville. Some of you know bits and pieces and some might not know anything, but as our good friends we thought it was time to bring everyone up to speed. Jared and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year now. At first we didn’t tell people because we thought it would just be a fun surprise - while it would have been, it never happened. So now I just feel like I am keeping a secret and I don’t really keep secrets about myself – I feel like I am being dishonest – but I don’t want to just blurt it out in some random conversation either. So there ya go.

In the past few months I have been taking a medication called Clomid to help us with the process and still no luck, I also have gotten an HSG test where they check to make sure everything looks good and the tubes are open etc. That came back with positive results and everything looks like it’s supposed to. Jared was tested too and he is in great shape. Our doctor wants us to go see a fertility specialist to determine the next steps. So, September 19 we are heading to The Fertility Clinic to meet with the Dr. there and discuss where to go from here. Unfortunately our insurance doesn’t cover any of this, but we feel it’s worth it.

Jared and I are very positive about the situation, we aren’t devastated, it doesn’t bother us that other people are having kids, or talking about babies, we aren’t bitter at all like I hear of some couples getting – it is one part of our life, not our whole life – we have kept a light heart and joke about things often, I make a celebratory batch of cookie dough or have a nice drink to celebrate NOT being pregnant every month – enjoy things I couldn’t do if I were. We still believe that we will have kids, and the clinic we are going to is in the top 5% in the nation so that’s great! Our request is that you don’t feel bad for us or pity us. A lot of times when you tell people this you get that head tilt to the side and OH, I’m sure God has a Plan, or I’m sorry, or Something will work. We are aware of all of that and really don’t want it said to us in a “feeling bad for you” kinda way. We are loving our life right now, and while we would love a little addition it’s fine that that is not happening yet – we know that God does have a plan, and our life together so far has been one where He has clearly taught us that we are not in control and not to stress cause He has it figured out. (We tried the stress thing and it didn’t work out to well, so we have learned to just let go and enjoy life where we are!)

So anyways, if you have questions please fire away, I really don’t know anything else about what we will do until after we meet with Drs on the 19^th, we aren’t shy or anything about talking about it, I just wanted to email everyone first so we don’t have to have the same initial talk a bazillion times with everyone – even though I know this is UBERLY impersonal…sorry.

Like I said it is just a part of our life that we haven’t shared because we wanted it to be a surprise, but that kinda backfired so now it seems like a big deal, but it’s not to us and we have been going through these steps for months now.

I am sure this came out of left field for some of you, SORRY! But I feel much better now if that helps J

Have a great day!

Michelle & Jared

So there you have it. Just to clarify based on some responses from people, this is NOT a touchy subject to us so you can feel free to just blurt out "what is happening with the baby making" or "when is your appt?" or anything like that... it's fine. To me it seems the same as "how's work going? - not touchy at all....unless you just got fired and are about to move out onto the street...then maybe that would be a touchy question! haha.

I will be updating the blog with where we are and what happens because that is just easier then trying to remember to tell everyone or having the same convo with everyone I see. So check back here to keep up!

Have a great day!